I’ve never really been a fan of Valentine’s Day. Aside from the cute tradition of giving your classmates little candy and cards in elementary school, there are few V-Day traditions that I enjoy or support. But I’m learning that, as someone who is emotionally taken but yet, painfully single, February 14th is a whole new kind of hell.

Every aspect of Valentine’s Day, whether it’s the candy and flowers, the cute date ideas, and couples making out everywhere, reminds a single person of just how single they are. But more so, it makes you wonder how or why you messed up so badly not to have someone to share the day with.

I can think of the person I’d want to spend Valentine’s Day with (well, you know, if it wasn’t such an overrated holiday). Hell, that person is someone I’d spend any holiday or any ordinary day with. But that’s not going to happen, and I’m coming to terms with that, even though all the red and pink hearts everywhere aren’t making it very easy.

After spending half the day whining about Valentine’s Day, I’ve decided that it’s easier to find a Valentine than be alone. So I’ve decided to make myself my own Valentine today. I’ve decided that, for once, I’ll make it all about me. I will try my hardest to forget the one I’d rather be with today, and instead, I will treat myself to food, binge-watch whatever I want, and, when the day is over, happily go back to my normal life.

So, this one is for all of you who have someone in mind, someone who you wish you were spending your Valentine’s Day. Regardless of what your story is, or why you aren’t with that person, you will be okay. Or maybe, there is no one in mind. Either way, make it a day all about yourself; treat and pamper yourself. If you don’t want to be alone, hang out with your friends. Go out to eat, catch a movie, or sit with them and watch reruns of Friends. Regardless of what you decide to do, don’t let a commercialized holiday make you feel bad for being alone; after all, the most important person is you, before anyone else.

Oh, and remember, if you still feel crappy today, there will be half-price candy everywhere tomorrow. Atleast that’s something to look forward to, right?